Understanding life

You don't have to add an extra hour to the day to find time for each other. These six fun strategies can keep you connected immediately.


1. Be funny. 

Kind-spirited humor can douse a hot argument, head off a fight, and turn the drudgery of household responsibilities and planning into something witty, smart, and hilarious. Stick with warm humor; sarcasm and snide remarks aren't relationship-builders.


2. Be kissy. 


Saluting your spouse with a longer-than-usual kiss in the morning, at the end of the workday, and before you say good night telegraphs the good news that you still find him or her irresistible and wonderful.


3. Be appreciative.


You can never appreciate your spouse too much. He or she needs to hear how much you admire the
way he or she gets the bills paid, organizes the kids' activities, made that tasty shrimp scampi last night, rewired the basement, cleared out three months' worth of old magazines from beside the couch, or got the trash out to the curb just in time for pickup.


4. Be surprising. 


Bring home an unexpected little gift. Get the car serviced before he changes the oil. Deliver breakfast in bed next Saturday (then pop a Looney Tunes DVD into the TV for the kids and lock
your bedroom door).


5. Be historical.


Play the songs you two loved best when you were courting. Bring out your wedding album after dinner and leaf through it together. Bring up the good times from your past--you'll both get a glow and feel lifted up as you remember your passion.


6. Be forgetful. 


Forgive your spouse's human shortcomings, then forget them. Nobody's perfect, especially under
stress. (Hmmm ... could that include you?) Graciously overlooking flaws, errors, and gaffes sets a sweetly gracious tone for your relationship.

Thank you for your attention! 

Did you sleep well last night? If the answer is “No”, you are in good company. Insomnia is the most common sleep disorder in the UK, with up to a third of the population affected at some stage of the lives.


Insomnia doesn’t just mean inability to drop off to sleep. Other symptoms are : waking early and not getting back to sleep, constantly interrupted short periods of sleep, or hours of wakefulness. You may feel permanently tired , anxious or irritable, and your memory and ability to concentrate may be adversely affected.


When to visit the doctor

If the insomnia is persistent, visit your doctor . sleeping pills are not the only treatment, although they may be offered as a short-term solution. If you are suffering from the emotional distress, you may be advised to see a counselor.

Self-help

First , check your bedroom is not too hot or cold , noisy or stuffy. Keep it dark, well-ventilated and quiet.

Second, check you lifestyle:

Don’t eat rich, heavy meals after 7pm. Avoid caffeinated drinks, such as tea , coffee, cola and chocolate, four hours before bed. Opt for decaffeinated coffee, chamomile tea, or warm milk. Cutting down on your liquid intake before bedtime helps avoid night-time toilet visits.


Alcohol can also be stimulating, so if you are having a night-cap, drink it two hours before bed.


Smoking stimulates adrenalin production, so cut down or give up. Reseach shows heavy smokers take longer to fall asleep, wake up more during the night and sleep more lightly.


Synchronise your body clock by getting up and going to bed at the same time every day. Avoid daytime naps .


Develop a relaxing bedtime routine. Read or listen music, then take a warm bath, adding 4~6 drops of lavender oil. Research has shown this scent may be as effective as sleeping pills .


If you really can not sleep, try some bread, rice, or milk.


Go for a daily walk. Natural light helps to regulate your biological clock, so exercise outdoors if you can.


Forget the worries of the day. Write down any worries, thoughts or questions before bed. Next ,come up with solutions. With these written down,you’ll have less to think about and sleep should be easier.

Thank you for your attention!

Every boss wants employees who do their jobs well. But even among highly competent employees, there are distinctions. Here are 10 tips for making sure you're on the boss' A-list:


1. Communicate, communicate, communicate. 

Especially at the beginning of your relationship. that is, when either you or the boss is new to the job -- err on the side of giving your boss too much information and asking too many questions.

"There's no such thing as a dumb question," says Marianne Adoradio, a Silicon Valley recruiter and career counselor. "Look at it as information gathering."

Don't keep up the constant stream of communication unless your boss likes it, though. It's best to ask directly whether you're giving the boss enough information or too much.

2. Acknowledge what the boss says. 

Bosses appreciate "responsive listening," says John Farner, principal of Russell Employee Management Consulting. When your boss asks you to do something or suggests ways for you to improve your work, let her know you heard.

3. Collaborate. 

When your boss has a new idea, respond to it in a constructive way instead of throwing up roadblocks.

"Be willing to brainstorm ways to get something done," says Michael Beasley, principal of Career-Crossings and a leadership and career development coach.

4. Build relationships. 

You'll make your boss look good if you establish a good rapport with your department's customers, whether they're inside the company or outside. Bring back what you learn -- about ways to offer better customer service, for example -- to your boss. This is also helpful for your own career development.

"Everybody wins in the long run," Adoradio says.

5. Understand how you fit in. 

Is your boss detail-oriented, or someone who keeps his head in the clouds?

"The boss's personality is just incredibly important," says Norm Meshriy, a career counselor and principal of Career Insights.

Equally important is understanding what your boss wants in an employee. It may be, for example, that a boss who is detail-oriented will expect his employees to be as well. But a boss who has no time for details may actually appreciate an employee who does.

To be continued. Thank you for your attention! 

 I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am withyou。

No man or woman is worth your tears, and the one who is ,won't make you cry。

The worst way to miss someone is to be sitting right beside them knowing you can't have them。

Never frown, even when you are sad, because you never know who is falling in love with your smile。

To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world。

Don't waste your time on a man/woman, who isn't willing to waste their time on you。

Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to, doesn't mean they don't love you with all they have

Don't try to hard, the best things come when you least expect them to。

Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right one, so that when we finally meet the person, we will know how to be grateful。

Don't cry because it is over, smile because it happened。

Thank you for your attention!

1. Create a plan for each day--use the plan to organize your day, but don't be married to the plan--remain flexible.



2. Keep a list of your priorities in view. Measure your to-dos and planned actions against them.



3. Ask of each new task before you: "Who is the best person to be doing this task?"



4. Ask specifically for what you want, including conditions of satisfaction, and timeframes. Don't expect people to read your mind.

5. Skip the morning news on TV. It's primarily negative. Skip the late night news on TV. It's even more negative than the morning news. Go to sleep earlier, read, or write a journal.



6. Start each day with 30-60 minutes of reading--business, educational or inspirational.

7. Refine and clarify your vision. Where are your actions taking your organization?



8. Whatever you are currently complaining about--stop it.



9. Use the 80/20 rule to your advantage.



10. Work on one item at a time.



11. Put your basic values into writing.



12. Put your goals (all of them) into writing.



13. Do your next day's planning at the end of the day.



14. Be networking conscious.


15. Establish a reading/learning program.



16. Ask the question, where is the strategic or competitive advantage?



17. Figure out what you are very good at doing--delegate or outsource the rest.



18. Analyze the cost/benefit of what you are doing. It may be more cost-effective to delegate or outsource.


19. Ask yourself, "Is what I am doing the highest value contribution I can make now?"

If not, don't do it.

Thank you for your attention!